I’ve been thinking a lot about worry lately, and I recently wrote a Reiki article on it. One of the principles of Reiki is the promise:
“Just for today, I will not worry.”
It’s incredibly powerful. For what is worry but an emotion that is related to your response to a probable event in the future. When you worry, your frame of reference shifts to reacting on the basis of “what if”; a future event that is not only unrealised but probably will never be. By centering in the now and focusing on what is real, there is no need for worry. Worrying is useless for someone who lives fully in the moment. The now is the reality.
Worry is different to concern. Concern is a lighter emotion that motivates you to take action, for example, to save money to pay for upcoming holidays or a rainy day, to take courses to improve your life or take up a new hobby as an outlet for your creative talents.
“There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.” ~ Harold Stephens
By focusing your energies on what “might” happen, you’re action pouring energy into making it happen. Ever hear the one about the pink elephant? What do you do? No matter how hard you try, all you can imagine is a pink elephant! Therefore when you’re worrying you’re thinking of what you don’t want rather than what you do.
“Worry is like praying for something you don’t want to happen”
When you release yourself from worry, you’ll be free to concentrate on what you do want and you’ll suddenly find solutions you never thought were there. It’s like pulling the wool from in front of your eyes, you’ll develop a new perspective and a wonderful sense of peace that you know that everything will work out as it’s meant to.
So how do you release worry? Well there are a number of things that you can do some of which are:
1) The cookie jar. Developed by John Thie, a renowned Kinesiologist. I heard about this a few years ago and I though it was genius. Basically you write down what you’re worried about on pieces of paper. One worry per piece and put them all into a cookie jar. Then you make a promise to yourself that you will not worry about whatever is in the cookie jar for one week. After this time, sit down and go through your cookie jar. Take out the things that you’re not worried about any more and add in other worries if you need to. Do the same thing again, put the jar away and promise that you won’t worry about the contents for the week and again sit down a week later and go through the jar. And so on. If you do start worrying about what’s in the jar, then stop yourself and remind yourself that it’s in the jar and you’ll look at it when the jar is opened again.
2) Meditate. Known as one of the best forms of stress relief and to combat worry, meditation is becoming more and more popular. Many people aren’t sure what it is or how to do it but really all it is is a way to relax and centre yourself. That could be spending 5 minutes a day doing some deep breathing exercises, or walking in nature and being fully present to the colours, sounds, smells and feel of the terrain. We covered meditation in a previous newsletter so I won’t go into it more here. However, if you’d like more information on it then please email me and I’ll send you on that edition.
If you want worry to be a thing of the past then do the above, they work excellently for freeing you up from this useless emotion.