Do you look after yourself? Do you give to others/everyone else first and then if there is a little bit left for yourself great, but most of the time there is nothing? Are you exhausted after a day, a week, a month of the same routine? Perhaps you’re the one that everyone goes to with a problem and while you feel honoured for this trust, it completely drains you? Or are you drained by some negative people in work or at home.? You could be feeling like anything could affect your energy levels and that you’re operating on a very limited supply.
If you identify with any or all of the above then it’s time for some self-care. It’s time to look after your energy, do some housekeeping and start a self care practice.
House-keeping: where does your energy go?
I often ask my clients to observe their life for 1 week with a catch, do it without judgement! (this can be the hard part, but it’s very important) I request that they write down their observations and notice what they notice about their lives, as an objective observer. When they do this many of them are astounded. They’ll often report back that they never realised before how often they lost their temper at things that didn’t really matter, that they ran around like a headless chicken not really getting anything done, and that their most common emotions in a day were stress and worry about work mostly and how they spent too much time on the phone/facebook/instagram/whats app!
This is a very interesting exercise to do, as it shows you exactly and in black and white where your energy is going and to whom it’s going on. Note: That is no ones fault (not yours, nor theirs), however your energy is a very precious thing and when you honour it and decide not to give so much of your energy to all of the above. well then you will be empowered, motivated, and excited to live your own life.
I’d recommend doing this housekeeping exercise every 6 months.
I’d recommend doing self care daily.
What is self-care?
This energy housekeeping must be done with a regular self care practise, but what is that exactly? Self care isn’t self indulgence (though we might have been told that it is!) It is simply making yourself as much of a priority as everyone else, tending to your own energy. To use an every day example, imagine your energy levels are your petrol tank. You can drive around in the red, or you can take time to stop and fill it up.
This needs to be done daily. Yep, I know this may be very uncomfortable to some of you reading this. I can hear you saying…but I don’t have the time, how can i fit it in, i’m already maxed out!! All you need is 5 minutes.
Without self care you will cycle through a loop of burning out, exhaustion, tiredness, and with very little reserves of patience, love, understanding etc to give to anyone else. Without self care you will not achieve all the things that you wish for and dream of, without self care you won’t be able to tune into what you want, without self care you are less of what you can be.
Having a regular self care practise will also mean that negative people will bother you less and you will have more energy and you will want to do the things that bring you joy.
What are self care practises?
Well that’s up to you. For some people it’s yoga, meditation and Reiki, for others, the very idea of doing Yoga stresses them out. So if this is you, don’t do it! 🙂 That is, YOUR self care practise is anything that brings you joy, some suggestions are:
- A walk in the park
- Stretching 1st thing in the morning
- When you look in the mirror, say something nice.
- Starting your day with an intention
- Meditation, get up 10 minutes earlier.
- Petting your cat or dog
- Giving yourself permission to do nothing every Monday evening
- Practicing gratitude
- Being present to 1 thing in your life every day, for e.g. your drive to work, your shower, your breakfast, running, etc.
- A bath
Whatever it is that you choose to do (and it can be different every day), then it must be what you want to do, and what time permits. Even 5 minutes a day is a good place to start and yes, EVERYBODY CAN FIND 5 MINUTES 🙂
My self care practises are: (pick 1 or more every day)
How do I know when I’m low in energy? I……
These are key indicators to you that you need extra self care. For a lot of people these indicators are: “When I become irritable” “when I resent giving my time to others”, “when I’m completely exhausted”
Its important to know these indicators as those are the days that you need to spend some extra time on self care.
As it’s coming up to New Year I’d highly recommend implementing this now. Remember all you need is 5 minutes a day and it’s simple, easy and fun! 🙂
Thank you for reading!