• Ellen Shilling

How do I let go and trust?

Giving in v’s letting go

I always wondered what the difference was. Surely by letting go I was giving in? I first heard people talk about this concept a few years ago. I was told that I should give up worry, that I should give up control and trust in the powers that be. But I struggled with the idea, if I gave up then am I not telling the universe that I didn’t care! How could I give up and not give in? This worried me alot!

I never really thought about worry before and how that was actually preventing me from manifesting the life that I wanted. You see worrying and holding onto things, people, situations and especially outcomes only makes you miserable! Well it certainly made me miserable! I was constantly stressed in particular about my business, had a permanent knot in my stomach and was attached to my phone & emails! I knew I had to let it go at the time but couldn’t reconcile with “giving it up/letting go” and how I could do that.

It’s only in recent years that I’ve figured it out and there is a very important difference between the two. Giving up to me is not engaging in life, not caring what the outcome of any situation is. Letting go is handing over worry, stress and an attachment to the outcome. Letting go allows things to flow to you, letting go is trusting in the universe, letting go is freedom. Holding on is trying to control, generally a fear based emotion. Its not trusting and it’s head-wrecking as we try to figure out how things are going to happen!

For example. When I first opened my practise I wanted 6 people on a particular workshop. So I visualised 6 lovely people signing up to my course, I “put it out there so to speak”, advertised etc, did all the things I was meant to. Grand, sorted, so then I’d wait for the phone to ring and the emails to come in, and I'd wait and I’d stress about it, worry about it, try to let it go, but wouldn’t be able to. In effect I was blocking what I wanted from coming to me as I was focusing on what I didn’t have, ie 6 people. This was exhausting and nearly ended up in me giving up on workshops altogether. I was trying to control everything as I thought this was the way to do things. If I gave over the worry was I not giving over wanting to fill the workshops? Would it mean that I wasn’t meant to care about this? I couldn’t do that cause I did care! I was quite confused by the whole idea.

After some reflection, I decided I had to change this as it clearly wasn’t working, I started in the same way, putting it out there that I wanted 6 people but this time I let it go. I let go of “how” it was going to happen, how the people would find me, instead I placed trust in the universe that my request was heard and that it would be answered. Then I got busy living and soon it filled! Now, people find me in all sorts of way, it’s actually incredible to hear how the wheels were put in motion.

So while you sometimes might think that your request hasn’t been heard, remember that you don’t know what’s winging its way to you. Keep your door open and trust!!

#trust #Lettinggo #dealingwithworry


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